| Location | Newark |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Still Birth |
| Date of Birth | 01/02/2008 |
| Date of Death | 01/02/2008 |
| Visitors | 6,891 since 11/04/2008 |
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first born child to lisa hague and kristian commons and missed every single second of every day.
lola came into this world sleeping on 1st february 2008
38 weeks pregnant hospital bag in the boot of my car, nursery full of toys, pram, cot and 2 hearts
full of love ready for the grand arrival - what can go wrong, what can possibly go wrong when you
are 38 weeks pregnant....... everything!
31st Jan i had a scan at city hospital just to see why our angel hadnt grown any in the last 2 weeks
that is where my world shattered and i was told that lola didnt have a heart beat, i felt my heart
stop beating too. it was the only appointment i attended alone because i knew everything would be
ok, i didnt need anyone to be there.
Before this happend heart breaking was it raining on a saturday or realising you have left your
expensive purse on the top of your car whilst putting the shopping in and then driving off.
Heartbreaking had a whole new meaning from that point, heart breaking is telling the man you love
that his daughter isnt going to be here in 2 weeks. Heartbreaking is delivering your baby and then
to be told you cant have her to take home after 8 and a half months that your body has been her
home. Heartbreaking is looking at kristian and seeing the look of fear and dissapointment in his
eyes.
i went into natural labour that night and god decided to go a little easier on us at this point and
within 6 hours and 40 gass and air tanks later she was here. i can not begin to describe what that
feeling is like to deliver your baby into this world knowing she will never take a breath or look
into your eyes.
my best friend kellie lives in dubai and she has been a rock for me, even 5,000 miles away she
always knows what to say, i know at any point i could have said get on that flight and she would
have been on the next flight home!! thanks kel.
We decided to have a full postmortem on lola to find out exactely why we lost her, we also decided
to have her organs donated to research. if lola shares me and her dads caring characteristics she
would be happy with that choice im sure.
Then it was a case of coming home and trying to get our heads round that there would be a funeral in
a couple of weeks and the fact that we had left the hospital and left lola there :-(
The funeral went as well as your babies funeral can be but only me and her daddy attended (this
wasnt through lack of people wanting to attend i can assure you) thats the way we wanted it , the
funeral was our time to grieve and until that point i dont think we truely understood that she wasnt
coming. It hits you like a ton of bricks that the name that you have said a million times and have
been so excited about is on a white casket twice the size of a shoe box 5 days before you were due
to have her.
Where do our lives take us now, im not sure ...i would like to think that one day i will have a baby
that i am able to hold in my arms but who knows if we will ever be strong enough to do such a
thing.
I would like to thank my partner kristian for without him i would not have such a beautiful
daughter.
We love lola more than anything she is constantly in our thoughts,
A child who loses its parent is called an orphan
A man who looses his wife is called a widower
A woman who looses her husband is called a widow
However, there is no name for a parent who looses a baby
There is no word to describe such pain
mummy and daddy and everyone down here loves you sweetheart, you will never ever be forgotten!!
good night angel x x x
Results from postmortem showed that my placenta had given up and consequently not fed lola properly,
the most common cause for stillborn babies.
thank you for taking the time to read our story. x lisa and kris x
please do not leave lola gifts on this site, im not happy that this is a new feature on this site
and is made for you to feel like you are leaving her gifts. Kris and myself will make a donation to
gonetoosoon. thank you x
precious
hey there you....i know its been a while but i been kinda busy making sure your mamma eats her greens! soon enough you shall have a baby sis!!!i love you more than you will ever know even though mummy sometimes tells me i keeps it in safe place within me you will always be my special girl. love ya loads daddy xx
baby lola - BIG sister
well lola its all confirmed that you have a baby sister on the way! its your important job to look after her from up in heaven. We think that we are going to name her Aril and to honour you we are going to have her middle name as Grace.
alot of people are asking me of this is my first baby and so far i have said no and explained that i had a beautiful baby called lola grace who was taken away. its exhausting going over the same story but it keeps your memory alive and i still love to talk about you. April is alot differnt to you, she is fairly quiet in my tummy she gives me the odd kick to let me know she's ok, you used to use me as a punch bag and dig your little bum into my bladder. i think you would have been a right cheeky miss, me and you spent most of our bonding time at 4am, thats the time you wanted to wake up and jig.
Anyway darling i love you and think of you a thousand times a second, you will always be my first and i know when April arrives i will wish i had both my girls here. ooh shes just kicked me, she must be saying hi.
good night sweetheart, your mummy loves you very much.
xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx
I wish I had a daisy
for each time you've crossed my mind,
I'd lay a trail of white and gold
across the great divide.
I wish I had an orchid
for each tear I've cried for you,
I'd fill the deepest ocean
and watch the waves come through.
I wish I had a lily
for each memory that we made,
I'd plant them in the clouds
in tribute to your loving ways.
I wish I had a rosebud
for each earthly day you lived,
so I could pave a soft and fragrant path
to your new home at Rainbow Bridge xxx
hey lola,
hope you liked your teddy bear under naomi's last post, we thought it would be nice for you! :)
your dad was going to play for scotland yesterday but silly george burley didnt even put him on the bench :(
lets hope he plays for them on wednesday against the netherlands so they can qualify! keep looking down on him and he will be fine.
keep looking down on your mummy too! x
sleep tight lola.
everybodies missing you.
love Keri xx
Shine Brightly!
Lola!
hope your doing ok up there. You need to be down here with your family because im sure there missing you a lot.. Make sure your special star shines brightly tonight and forever onwards!
Sleep tight and sweet dreams little girl xx
PS, stayy strongg up there!!
x x x x x x
To Lola.. Love Keri & Naomi xxx
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Lola.
I hope you liked the drawing me and naomi did, we planned it out to make sure it was good for you then we did it in pencil and eventually made it colourful for you :)
we hope you like the teddy, that took quite a while to draw!
keep looking down on your mummy because she's gonna have your little sister or brother in about 3 - 3 and a half months!
and keep looking down on your daddy too! :)
sweet dreams beautiful!
love keri xx
Lolaa..
Everytime i read this, it brings a tear to my eye. I can't believe how strong you and Kris have been Lisa. Just keep going :) congratulations on becoming pregnant & good luck!
Keep going strong up there Lola, every minute of everyday everyone thinks about you! Missing and loving you so so muchh.
I can't believe how fast a year as gonee, sweet dreams little girl.
Good bless & good night.
Lots of love,
Sarahh xxx
Lola..
Your such a gorgeous little girl! im sure your mummy and daddy miss you so so much..
its your daddy's birthday today and im sure your looking down on him to make sure he has a lovely day and i bet he's thinking of you.
he had a tough challenge at his old football club Notts Forest yesterday and he was subbed at half time so make sure today is extra special for him.
rip little girl!
Keri Walton x
Lola, your daddys birthday.
Lola,
you need to watch over your mummy and daddy tomorrow and make sure your daddy has a really good birthday! But i'm sure it's not going to be as special without there little girl there. Your mummy and daddy love you very much and they need you tomorrow to make your daddys birthday an extra special day because he had to face a very hard challenge at Nottingham Forest today, but i'm sure you already know that because i bet you were watching over him from all the way up there and wishing him all the best!
Good night little lola.
Sleep tight and sweet dreams! x
Naomi Murfin x
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