| Location | Newark |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Still Birth |
| Date of Birth | 01/02/2008 |
| Date of Death | 01/02/2008 |
| Visitors | 8,233 since 11/04/2008 |
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first born child to lisa hague and kristian commons and missed every single second of every day.
lola came into this world sleeping on 1st february 2008
38 weeks pregnant hospital bag in the boot of my car, nursery full of toys, pram, cot and 2 hearts
full of love ready for the grand arrival - what can go wrong, what can possibly go wrong when you
are 38 weeks pregnant....... everything!
31st Jan i had a scan at city hospital just to see why our angel hadnt grown any in the last 2 weeks
that is where my world shattered and i was told that lola didnt have a heart beat, i felt my heart
stop beating too. it was the only appointment i attended alone because i knew everything would be
ok, i didnt need anyone to be there.
Before this happend heart breaking was it raining on a saturday or realising you have left your
expensive purse on the top of your car whilst putting the shopping in and then driving off.
Heartbreaking had a whole new meaning from that point, heart breaking is telling the man you love
that his daughter isnt going to be here in 2 weeks. Heartbreaking is delivering your baby and then
to be told you cant have her to take home after 8 and a half months that your body has been her
home. Heartbreaking is looking at kristian and seeing the look of fear and dissapointment in his
eyes.
i went into natural labour that night and god decided to go a little easier on us at this point and
within 6 hours and 40 gass and air tanks later she was here. i can not begin to describe what that
feeling is like to deliver your baby into this world knowing she will never take a breath or look
into your eyes.
my best friend kellie lives in dubai and she has been a rock for me, even 5,000 miles away she
always knows what to say, i know at any point i could have said get on that flight and she would
have been on the next flight home!! thanks kel.
We decided to have a full postmortem on lola to find out exactely why we lost her, we also decided
to have her organs donated to research. if lola shares me and her dads caring characteristics she
would be happy with that choice im sure.
Then it was a case of coming home and trying to get our heads round that there would be a funeral in
a couple of weeks and the fact that we had left the hospital and left lola there :-(
The funeral went as well as your babies funeral can be but only me and her daddy attended (this
wasnt through lack of people wanting to attend i can assure you) thats the way we wanted it , the
funeral was our time to grieve and until that point i dont think we truely understood that she wasnt
coming. It hits you like a ton of bricks that the name that you have said a million times and have
been so excited about is on a white casket twice the size of a shoe box 5 days before you were due
to have her.
Where do our lives take us now, im not sure ...i would like to think that one day i will have a baby
that i am able to hold in my arms but who knows if we will ever be strong enough to do such a
thing.
I would like to thank my partner kristian for without him i would not have such a beautiful
daughter.
We love lola more than anything she is constantly in our thoughts,
A child who loses its parent is called an orphan
A man who looses his wife is called a widower
A woman who looses her husband is called a widow
However, there is no name for a parent who looses a baby
There is no word to describe such pain
mummy and daddy and everyone down here loves you sweetheart, you will never ever be forgotten!!
good night angel x x x
Results from postmortem showed that my placenta had given up and consequently not fed lola properly,
the most common cause for stillborn babies.
thank you for taking the time to read our story. x lisa and kris x
please do not leave lola gifts on this site, im not happy that this is a new feature on this site
and is made for you to feel like you are leaving her gifts. Kris and myself will make a donation to
gonetoosoon. thank you x
hey Lola,
i cant sleep so i thought i'd write you a tribute, so i apologise if i have any mistakes; its because im on my ipod and its hard to write using this!
hope your having a good time up there miss! take every moment in; thats what they say isn't it :)
your daddy had to go off on saturday, and because he went down in the penalty box near the east stand corner, where i sit, i saw straight away that he had done his hamstring because i saw him rubbing it.. they said on the dcfc website it was just a strain but he got his scan results back today and its a tear so that means he's out for 4-6 weeks, so keep on looking down & shining on your dad so he can be back doing what he does best soon :)
your mummy is still looking after April and im sure she is doing amazing at being a mummy and looking after your lil' sis! so keep on shining on your mummy and April and everything will be fine for them too :)
sleep tight miss commons.. one of the most beautiful angels ever.
love from Keri :) xxx
Lola, Lola, Lola..
your definately looking down on your mummy & daddy at the minute arn't you! your daddy is playing AMAZING for Derby, he set up 2 goals on Tuesday night and he even scored a penalty :)
your mummy is looking after April and im sure she is doing a fantastic job.
keep on looking down won't you and enjoy it up there, i wonder if you've met any of my family..
sleep tight miss.
xx
2 years today.♥
Lola;
today...
I bet your mummy and daddy have been on an emotional rollercoaster over the last few years with all the things that have been happening! But im sure that you have been sadly missed.
Even though you have a little sister now they will never forget about you, you will always be in their hearts.♥
Happy 2nd Birthday Lola. [:
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A Birthday In Heaven by Kris Smith
I heard you crying yesterday,
And felt your heart-sent love.
So I’m sending you this message
Now, from Heaven up above.
You’re wondering if I’ll celebrate
My Birthday (way up here).
I know you’re missing me today
I feel your essence near.
God planned a special day for me,
He told me with a wink.
He’d ordered me a special cake
(It’s Angel food, I think).
Balloons will fill the streets for me,
They float up through the clouds.
And we have lots of friends up here
That make us laugh out loud.
There is a Birthday carousel,
Jewelled horses ride the wind,
With music playing, oh so sweet…
The magic never ends.
I’ve made so many friends, you see
We laugh and play and sing.
We ride our bikes and play jump rope
And sleep in Angel’s wings.
We’ll have our cake and ice cream
And open gifts - SURPRISE!
But we don’t blow out our candles here
Instead, they light the skies.
With love from your little Angel XX
Little Sister - by Christie Wildman
For your new child XX
You have this little Sister,
She loves you very much,
But you’ll never get to see her,
Or feel her gentle touch.
She had to go away you see,
Through God’s garden gates.
Though she longs to meet you,
Heaven’s where she waits.
You have this little Sister,
She’s sending you her love,
Although she longs to be with you,
She watches from above.
She grew her Angel wings you see,
Though none of us were ready,
On one of heavens clouds she sleeps,
Cuddling her teddy.
You have this little Sister,
She’d love to come and play.
But for all eternity,
In the sky is where she’ll stay.
God had a plan you see,
He needs her by his side,
He’s shown her how to use her wings,
Through heavens clouds she glides.
You have this little Sister,
And though you are apart,
The love that you feel for her,
Will remain ever in your heart.
hey lola :)
in life, you have good stages & bad stages! it seems that you get the good stages and then it all gets ruined when you get the bad that comes along cause thats whats happened to me! at the minute im in a really bad stage and its getting me down.. so to prevent your mummy and daddy going through any type of bad stage, keep looking down on them & shining on them ‹3
your so beautiful, it must of been god decided to take the amazing one's rather than the others.. to be honest, i'd rather be you at this stage in time! :(
sleep tight..
xxxx
Special sister
Lola
I heard today that you have become a big sister! I was so pleased to hear mummy and daddy had a new addition and I thought of you straight away. I wonder if she shares your beautiful dainty face and sweet cheeks? I do hope we get to see her one day when mummy visits work.
Keep on shining for your mummy, daddy and little sister - you're still their extra special star.
xxx
Hey Lola :)
your now a big sister! you've obviously been shining down on your mummy and daddy recently haven't you!
your mum has given birth to April and your daddy has been playing verrrrrrry well for derby.. and he has even scored in the past two games ;D!
keep shining down on your family and dont forget... just because April is here, it doesnt mean your going to be forgotten ♥!
r.i.p baby Lola.
Love Naomi & Keri ♥x
grandad jeff & nanna julie
hi sweetheart
just seen pictures and video of your sister god we are so proud , your mummy and daddy can not stop talking about you, hope you are being good you are our little angle in the sky you shine so bright we will love you with all our hearts and for ever and cant wait for us all to be together love you grandad jeff and nanna julie x x x x x x x x x x x x xx x
grandad jeff & nanna julie
hi sweetheart
just seen pictures and video of your sister god we are so proud , your mummy and daddy can not stop talking about you, hope you are being good you are our little angle in the sky you shine so bright we will love you with all our hearts and for ever and cant wait for us all to be together love you grandad jeff and nanna julie x x x x x x x x x x x x xx x
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