| Location | Newark |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Still Birth |
| Date of Birth | 01/02/2008 |
| Date of Death | 01/02/2008 |
| Visitors | 7,055 since 11/04/2008 |
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first born child to lisa hague and kristian commons and missed every single second of every day.
lola came into this world sleeping on 1st february 2008
38 weeks pregnant hospital bag in the boot of my car, nursery full of toys, pram, cot and 2 hearts
full of love ready for the grand arrival - what can go wrong, what can possibly go wrong when you
are 38 weeks pregnant....... everything!
31st Jan i had a scan at city hospital just to see why our angel hadnt grown any in the last 2 weeks
that is where my world shattered and i was told that lola didnt have a heart beat, i felt my heart
stop beating too. it was the only appointment i attended alone because i knew everything would be
ok, i didnt need anyone to be there.
Before this happend heart breaking was it raining on a saturday or realising you have left your
expensive purse on the top of your car whilst putting the shopping in and then driving off.
Heartbreaking had a whole new meaning from that point, heart breaking is telling the man you love
that his daughter isnt going to be here in 2 weeks. Heartbreaking is delivering your baby and then
to be told you cant have her to take home after 8 and a half months that your body has been her
home. Heartbreaking is looking at kristian and seeing the look of fear and dissapointment in his
eyes.
i went into natural labour that night and god decided to go a little easier on us at this point and
within 6 hours and 40 gass and air tanks later she was here. i can not begin to describe what that
feeling is like to deliver your baby into this world knowing she will never take a breath or look
into your eyes.
my best friend kellie lives in dubai and she has been a rock for me, even 5,000 miles away she
always knows what to say, i know at any point i could have said get on that flight and she would
have been on the next flight home!! thanks kel.
We decided to have a full postmortem on lola to find out exactely why we lost her, we also decided
to have her organs donated to research. if lola shares me and her dads caring characteristics she
would be happy with that choice im sure.
Then it was a case of coming home and trying to get our heads round that there would be a funeral in
a couple of weeks and the fact that we had left the hospital and left lola there :-(
The funeral went as well as your babies funeral can be but only me and her daddy attended (this
wasnt through lack of people wanting to attend i can assure you) thats the way we wanted it , the
funeral was our time to grieve and until that point i dont think we truely understood that she wasnt
coming. It hits you like a ton of bricks that the name that you have said a million times and have
been so excited about is on a white casket twice the size of a shoe box 5 days before you were due
to have her.
Where do our lives take us now, im not sure ...i would like to think that one day i will have a baby
that i am able to hold in my arms but who knows if we will ever be strong enough to do such a
thing.
I would like to thank my partner kristian for without him i would not have such a beautiful
daughter.
We love lola more than anything she is constantly in our thoughts,
A child who loses its parent is called an orphan
A man who looses his wife is called a widower
A woman who looses her husband is called a widow
However, there is no name for a parent who looses a baby
There is no word to describe such pain
mummy and daddy and everyone down here loves you sweetheart, you will never ever be forgotten!!
good night angel x x x
Results from postmortem showed that my placenta had given up and consequently not fed lola properly,
the most common cause for stillborn babies.
thank you for taking the time to read our story. x lisa and kris x
please do not leave lola gifts on this site, im not happy that this is a new feature on this site
and is made for you to feel like you are leaving her gifts. Kris and myself will make a donation to
gonetoosoon. thank you x
Lola, your daddys birthday.
Lola,
you need to watch over your mummy and daddy tomorrow and make sure your daddy has a really good birthday! But i'm sure it's not going to be as special without there little girl there. Your mummy and daddy love you very much and they need you tomorrow to make your daddys birthday an extra special day because he had to face a very hard challenge at Nottingham Forest today, but i'm sure you already know that because i bet you were watching over him from all the way up there and wishing him all the best!
Good night little lola.
Sleep tight and sweet dreams! x
Naomi Murfin x
a baby update
Hey little miss, well your mummy is 4months pregnant today. Monday is a very special day as we find out if were getting you a baby brother or sister.
your doing a fantastic job of keeping this baby safe!! i felt the baby move for the first time the other day, that familiar little kick that i used to feel from you.
Your daddy played for scotland on monday and i told him you would be watching over him.
well my little precious you are still in my thoughts everday and i wish you were here running round my feet getting into mischief! you know when i let your little brother or sister get away with murder and they are the most spoilt little brat that ever walked the earth, im going to blame you for that!!!! :-) anyway princess time to go, this baby just like you is zapping all my energy away. i miss you, i love you.
your mummy. you will always be my 1st lola xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Lisa, when I heard what had happened to you with beautiful Lola I wanted to get in touch and didn't really know how but believe me when I say you were in my thoughts. It's amazing how brave and strong you were.
Lola was absolutely gorgeous, I've been looking at the photos.
Just recently my dad found out from your dad that you were pregnant and couldn't wait to tell me the news! I'm over the moon for you. I'm wishing you a happy, healthy and worry-free pregnancy.
Lots of Love
Jodie xxx
good news
Hi little miss, well I've got some very interesting news for you, mummy is pregnant again! We need you to look over us and help us as much as you can as your this little babies big sister. You will always always be our first baby and we still miss you so very much. It was a hard decision to make lola - to try and have another baby! You hear people saying when they have kids I can't imagine ever having to share my love and attention, well your not even here and that crossed my mind! I wondered if I had any more space left in my brain to think of anyone else! Well you will always have a space in my heart that this baby can not fill and this baby will have space that you can't. I love you sooo much and being pregnant makes me think of you 1,000 times per second!! Miss you precious, your mummy xx xx
a massive day without a tiny person
Hi sweetheart, well auntie kellie gets married tomorrow, its going to be such a lovely day but a slightly sad one as you should be here as her flower girl. No doubt if you were here you'd have been taking all the attention for yourself - dont know who you take after.
Autie kel has had a 'lola' pillow made and its gorgeous, that will be walked down the isle with evie in your honour! you still manage to get in on everything ay little miss.
You watch over us all tomorrow and especially your auntie kell - shes a bag of nerves.
oh and if you could send me some vibes when im doing my speech that would be lovely, the last time i did a speech was at your funeral and you pulled me though that one!
i love you, i desperately wish you were here with me....So desperately. stick by me baby.
i love you, every speckle of love, your mummy x x x x
what brave, strong parents you have lola
Lisa, when i heard wat had happened to you both i felt so sad for you both as i saw u as a friend at school, i wanted 2 send u flowers but ad no idea where 2 send them 2, i didnt even no bout this website but how nice is it, i literally cried wen i read your memorial.. i truly cant imagine how ur both feeling even now... she was truly beautiful but so are her parents... like i wrote in my heading lola has brave, strong parents n i truly mean that..
i have lit a candle for your lil princess and i will keep doin so xxxxx
a year...........
I would like to thank everyone who has wrote a tribute and lit a candle for lola, she is a very lucky baby to still have so many people who still think about her all the time.
I cant believe a year has passed, i really cant believe it, arent i supposed to be better by now?
Still everyday my heart aches for lola to come back, back in my tummy, back to the hospital, just back.
They say time is a healer and im still waiting patiently for a day to come where the pain will feel slightly better, so far so bad.
You have to think posative though sometimes, there really are people in the world who do have their lives ripped apart and have noone for support. i know she is looking down on me and her daddy and wants to see us smiling, so on days where i can i go out there and live and laugh and live for lola - its the least i can do for her.
Miss lola grace.....wow what a cutie.
lisa hague x
I can't imagine how hard it has been for you this last year without your little girl. I remeber how excited you were at Helens wedding, and when she told me what had happened i could have cried for you. I'm sure that Lola is always with you. We just wanted you to know that you were in our thoughts.
Love Kerry & Twigg
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SLEEP TIGHT LITTLE ANGEL XXXXX
Another sad mummy
I was touched to read your daughters page my daughter was born on 6th feb 2008 it was a very simular story. I dont know about you but im dreading gracie's 1st birthday know body really understands what us mummys go through and reading your story it was amazing to find someone who shared all the same emotions i have. Not a day goes by when i dont miss gracie but were aloud hopefully our babies can take care of each other. Just wanted to let you know your in my thoughts take care xkarlyx (Gracie bladds mummy) xxx
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