| Location | Newark |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Still Birth |
| Date of Birth | 01/02/2008 |
| Date of Death | 01/02/2008 |
| Visitors | 7,055 since 11/04/2008 |
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first born child to lisa hague and kristian commons and missed every single second of every day.
lola came into this world sleeping on 1st february 2008
38 weeks pregnant hospital bag in the boot of my car, nursery full of toys, pram, cot and 2 hearts
full of love ready for the grand arrival - what can go wrong, what can possibly go wrong when you
are 38 weeks pregnant....... everything!
31st Jan i had a scan at city hospital just to see why our angel hadnt grown any in the last 2 weeks
that is where my world shattered and i was told that lola didnt have a heart beat, i felt my heart
stop beating too. it was the only appointment i attended alone because i knew everything would be
ok, i didnt need anyone to be there.
Before this happend heart breaking was it raining on a saturday or realising you have left your
expensive purse on the top of your car whilst putting the shopping in and then driving off.
Heartbreaking had a whole new meaning from that point, heart breaking is telling the man you love
that his daughter isnt going to be here in 2 weeks. Heartbreaking is delivering your baby and then
to be told you cant have her to take home after 8 and a half months that your body has been her
home. Heartbreaking is looking at kristian and seeing the look of fear and dissapointment in his
eyes.
i went into natural labour that night and god decided to go a little easier on us at this point and
within 6 hours and 40 gass and air tanks later she was here. i can not begin to describe what that
feeling is like to deliver your baby into this world knowing she will never take a breath or look
into your eyes.
my best friend kellie lives in dubai and she has been a rock for me, even 5,000 miles away she
always knows what to say, i know at any point i could have said get on that flight and she would
have been on the next flight home!! thanks kel.
We decided to have a full postmortem on lola to find out exactely why we lost her, we also decided
to have her organs donated to research. if lola shares me and her dads caring characteristics she
would be happy with that choice im sure.
Then it was a case of coming home and trying to get our heads round that there would be a funeral in
a couple of weeks and the fact that we had left the hospital and left lola there :-(
The funeral went as well as your babies funeral can be but only me and her daddy attended (this
wasnt through lack of people wanting to attend i can assure you) thats the way we wanted it , the
funeral was our time to grieve and until that point i dont think we truely understood that she wasnt
coming. It hits you like a ton of bricks that the name that you have said a million times and have
been so excited about is on a white casket twice the size of a shoe box 5 days before you were due
to have her.
Where do our lives take us now, im not sure ...i would like to think that one day i will have a baby
that i am able to hold in my arms but who knows if we will ever be strong enough to do such a
thing.
I would like to thank my partner kristian for without him i would not have such a beautiful
daughter.
We love lola more than anything she is constantly in our thoughts,
A child who loses its parent is called an orphan
A man who looses his wife is called a widower
A woman who looses her husband is called a widow
However, there is no name for a parent who looses a baby
There is no word to describe such pain
mummy and daddy and everyone down here loves you sweetheart, you will never ever be forgotten!!
good night angel x x x
Results from postmortem showed that my placenta had given up and consequently not fed lola properly,
the most common cause for stillborn babies.
thank you for taking the time to read our story. x lisa and kris x
please do not leave lola gifts on this site, im not happy that this is a new feature on this site
and is made for you to feel like you are leaving her gifts. Kris and myself will make a donation to
gonetoosoon. thank you x
our little angel
hello sweetheart we have put a bright star in the garden it shines so bright just like you there is a gentle angel who s walking by your side she will help u to find your way deep in to our hearts all day every day love you nannar julie commons xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
shopping trips....... without my little lola
As i persue the aisles,
of the local store,
i see things more differently,
than i ever did before,
'mummys little angel',
the embroidered bibs to read,
but,mummys angel is in heaven,
and bibs she does not need,
She does not need a bottle,
a bib or a toy,
buying all these things for her ,
we will never know the joy,
There are tiny jars of baby food,
that lola will never eat,
and shiney shoes with pink bows,
that will never touch her feet,
As the dolls and teddies taunt me,
from high up on the rack,
tears will break free from my eyes,
if aunty loubie dare look back,
i run off to the restroom,
to blow my nose and cry,
i wipe my eyes and swollow hard,
and then let out a sigh,
i must go face the paper,
college and wide rule,
that my sisters little angel,
will never go to school,
i hurry past the greeting cards,
that people chose with care,
and think of all the birthdays,
that me & lola we will never share,
in the checkout line i bow my head,
and heavy is my heart,
for the family right infront of me,
has a newborn in their cart,
shopping in the local store,
used to be mundane,
now every aisle's full of items ,
which remind me of my pain,
so,quick as i can,i give the cashier,
the money from my purse,
and hurry away from those who don't know my pain,
as my tears get even worse.
love you with all our hearts baby lola, every day we wish that you was here. missing you loads & loads.
love always
aunty loubie & uncle andy xx xx xx xx xx xx xx
For Lisa, Kris and Lola
We know your hearts are broken, so we want to give you ours,
We try to show we love you, with cards and gifts and flowers.
But, there are no words to soothe the tears that come to you each day,
No pill to dull the pain that came when Lola went away.
Every day we think of you, your sorrow and your grief,
And we all wish so very hard that we could each take a piece,
Just so you both could breathe and feel the sunshine on your face,
And know it’s little kisses from your Princess, Lola Grace.
But for right now we know that you both have to work it through,
And hope you know your friends are always here for you
So Lisa, you’re a mummy, and Kris, you are a dad,
And your baby girl looks down and you, and doesn’t want you to be sad.
She knows how much you love her, each and every day,
And she wishes that she didn’t have to leave and fly away.
When you both go to sleep at night and it feels like she’s not there,
She is watching over you, with love and hope and care.
Please, know we won’t forget her, she’s not here but she’s not gone,
For in all our hearts and minds and souls, baby Lola Grace lives on
so very true . . . . . . .
There's a pain beyond imagining, thats burning in your heart.
For suddenly your whole world, has been cruelly ripped apart.
All words of consolation, which are bound to come your way.
Will probably seem empty, and of little use today.
For when you ask for reasons, when you ask the question 'WHY'.
It makes no sense at all, that one so precious has to die.
The only source of comfort, is your memories and the love.
And they will shine forever, like the brightest star above.
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I did not die.
A BABY GIRL IN A MILLION. XXXXXXXXX
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ALL MY LOVE LOLA XXXXXXXXXXXX
I feel for you
My ex had two miscarriages when we were still together. No-one knows the devestation I felt when we knew. It was awful. You never forget something like that. Later we had a healthy baby boy who rocks my world and it makes him all the more precious.
My deepest sympathies to you.
Little Lola
The sweet dream of a child saying goodnight before she turned over and nestled her sweet cheek into her pillow after a full day of being extremly naughty was there. This was the promise. Instead, Lola left gifts of courage and strength in her parents and the fact that such a tiny heart could beat so quietly but with a passion that touched so many in such a way that it has left us all breathless and pining that she is not here. I light a candle to her beauty. I light a candle to her hopes. I light a candle to her promise. I light a candle to her all too brief life.
I thought this best described me at the moment.
================ My Mum, she tells a lot of lies, She never did before, But from now until she dies, She'll tell a whole lot more. Ask my Mum how she is, And because she can't explain, She will tell a little lie, Because she can't describle the pain. Ask my Mum how she is, She'll say 'I'm alright.' If that's the truth, then tell me, Why does she cry each night? Ask My Mum how she is, She seems to cope so well, She didn't have a choice you see, Nor the strength to yell. Ask my Mum how she is, 'I'm Fine, I'm well, I'm coping' For God's sake Mum, just tell the truth, Just say your heart is broken. She'll love me all her life, I loved her all of mine, But if you ask her how she is, She'll lie and say she's fine. I am here in Heaven, I cannot hug from here, If she lies to you don't listen, Hug her and hold her near. On the day we meet again, We'll smile and I'll be bold, I'll say, 'You're lucky to get in here, Mum, With all the lies you told!'
so sorry for your loss cousin x
i pray for hope, i pray for faith to help this little angel find her way into heaven were she is needed to help the angels guide our way. i wish my guardian angel will protect you, keep you safe and hold you when you need her most.
all my love sweet xxx your mummys cousin
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