| Location | Newark |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Still Birth |
| Date of Birth | 01/02/2008 |
| Date of Death | 01/02/2008 |
| Visitors | 7,055 since 11/04/2008 |
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first born child to lisa hague and kristian commons and missed every single second of every day.
lola came into this world sleeping on 1st february 2008
38 weeks pregnant hospital bag in the boot of my car, nursery full of toys, pram, cot and 2 hearts
full of love ready for the grand arrival - what can go wrong, what can possibly go wrong when you
are 38 weeks pregnant....... everything!
31st Jan i had a scan at city hospital just to see why our angel hadnt grown any in the last 2 weeks
that is where my world shattered and i was told that lola didnt have a heart beat, i felt my heart
stop beating too. it was the only appointment i attended alone because i knew everything would be
ok, i didnt need anyone to be there.
Before this happend heart breaking was it raining on a saturday or realising you have left your
expensive purse on the top of your car whilst putting the shopping in and then driving off.
Heartbreaking had a whole new meaning from that point, heart breaking is telling the man you love
that his daughter isnt going to be here in 2 weeks. Heartbreaking is delivering your baby and then
to be told you cant have her to take home after 8 and a half months that your body has been her
home. Heartbreaking is looking at kristian and seeing the look of fear and dissapointment in his
eyes.
i went into natural labour that night and god decided to go a little easier on us at this point and
within 6 hours and 40 gass and air tanks later she was here. i can not begin to describe what that
feeling is like to deliver your baby into this world knowing she will never take a breath or look
into your eyes.
my best friend kellie lives in dubai and she has been a rock for me, even 5,000 miles away she
always knows what to say, i know at any point i could have said get on that flight and she would
have been on the next flight home!! thanks kel.
We decided to have a full postmortem on lola to find out exactely why we lost her, we also decided
to have her organs donated to research. if lola shares me and her dads caring characteristics she
would be happy with that choice im sure.
Then it was a case of coming home and trying to get our heads round that there would be a funeral in
a couple of weeks and the fact that we had left the hospital and left lola there :-(
The funeral went as well as your babies funeral can be but only me and her daddy attended (this
wasnt through lack of people wanting to attend i can assure you) thats the way we wanted it , the
funeral was our time to grieve and until that point i dont think we truely understood that she wasnt
coming. It hits you like a ton of bricks that the name that you have said a million times and have
been so excited about is on a white casket twice the size of a shoe box 5 days before you were due
to have her.
Where do our lives take us now, im not sure ...i would like to think that one day i will have a baby
that i am able to hold in my arms but who knows if we will ever be strong enough to do such a
thing.
I would like to thank my partner kristian for without him i would not have such a beautiful
daughter.
We love lola more than anything she is constantly in our thoughts,
A child who loses its parent is called an orphan
A man who looses his wife is called a widower
A woman who looses her husband is called a widow
However, there is no name for a parent who looses a baby
There is no word to describe such pain
mummy and daddy and everyone down here loves you sweetheart, you will never ever be forgotten!!
good night angel x x x
Results from postmortem showed that my placenta had given up and consequently not fed lola properly,
the most common cause for stillborn babies.
thank you for taking the time to read our story. x lisa and kris x
please do not leave lola gifts on this site, im not happy that this is a new feature on this site
and is made for you to feel like you are leaving her gifts. Kris and myself will make a donation to
gonetoosoon. thank you x
Lola
Lola God saw that you was beautiful but staying here was'nt ment to be ,
So he put his arms around you and whispered come with me.
A golden heart stopped beating and a loving heart to rest,
God broke our hearts to prove to us he only takes the best. xxxxxxxxx
I'm so sorry for your loss, to endure such pain must be so hard, hold onto each other.
Your little girl will grow in Angels garden and walk on within your heart and dreams
Too beautiful for this world
x
♥¸.•*´)¸.•*´ ♥♥♥♥♥♥´*• .¸(*•.¸♥
These are my footprints
so perfect and so small.
These tiny footprints,
Never touched the ground at all.
Not one tiny footprint,
For now I have my wings.
These tiny footprints were meant,
For other things.
You will hear my tiny footprints,
In the patter of the rain.
Gentle drops like angel's tears,
Of joy and not from pain.
You will see my tiny footprints,
In each butterflies' lazy dance.
I'll let you know I'm with you
if you just give me a chance.
You will see my tiny footprints
in the rustle of the leaves.
I will whisper names into the wind
and call each one that grieves.
Most of all, these tiny footprints
Are found on mummy's heart.
'Cause even though I'm gone now
we’ll NEVER truly part.
♥¸.•*´)¸.•* ´ ♥♥♥♥♥♥´*• .¸(*•.¸♥
WHY?
WHY, if only we knew.. Thoughts of that tragic day come back into my mind, My poor cuz & Kris, the devastation hurt so much. Lisa, you are such a wonderful person whom i'm so proud to be related to. Kris, you are a good man whom i've have so much respect for. It broke my heart when i heard of your tragic loss. You're such a beautiful couple. Your broken hearts may not be mended, but you have each other.
I know Lola would be so proud of her Mummy & Daddy.
Both of you will always have a special place in my heart!
Love & Kindness Always! Neil, Donna, Elliott & Charlie xxx
to our 1st grand daughter and little angel
lola you came into our lives,but never woke,you are our little angel thats up in heaven waiting for us all to be together one day,you will never be forgotten and always missed.sleep tightly our little angel you are the brightest star that lights up the sky,you have fantastic parents who we love very much also god bless mummy lisa and daddy kristian ,all our love grandad jeff and nanna julie x x x x x x x x x x x x
a little star in the making
lola you would of been so happy and loved so much by everyone in our big family sleep tight look for cousin lewis john richardson you will be safe togerther x x x x x x x
Though i cannot begin to imagine the loss you have suffered all i can do is offer you my deepest condolences ... Lola is beautiful just like her mummy ... and she will always watch over her loving parents and know that she is missed with every heartbeat...
Love always x
i cant even begin to imagine how you both must feel.... ive sat and sobbed whilst looking at baby lola and seeing what a beautiful princess she was and how perfect she looked. words can not describe how hard this must be for you both. life at times is so cruel. but all your friends and family are here to support you 100% me being one of them. your a fantastic couple and would have made lola proud to have you as her parents.... i send you all my love and will be thinking of you both.. people will try and help and give advice but deep down at times no-one knows what your both really going through. keep strong i know at times it must be so hard..all my love xx
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sleep tight sweet Lola.
Ask My Mum How She Is
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My Mum, she tells a lot of lies,
She never did before,
But from now until she dies,
She'll tell a whole lot more.
Ask my Mum how she is,
And because she can't explain,
She will tell a little lie,
Because she can't describle the pain.
Ask my Mum how she is,
She'll say 'I'm alright.'
If that's the truth, then tell me,
Why does she cry each night?
Ask My Mum how she is,
She seems to cope so well,
She didn't have a choice you see,
Nor the strength to yell.
Ask my Mum how she is,
'I'm Fine, I'm well, I'm coping'
For God's sake Mum, just tell the truth,
Just say your heart is broken.
She'll love me all her life,
I loved her all of mine,
But if you ask her how she is,
She'll lie and say she's fine.
I am here in Heaven,
I cannot hug from here,
If she lies to you don't listen,
Hug her and hold her near.
On the day we meet again,
We'll smile and I'll be bold,
I'll say, 'You're lucky to get in here, Mum,
With all the lies you told!'
Where I am now you cannot see,
For I am spirit, fancy free.
Where shadows end, no day or night;
I am in heaven, in the light.
And so wherever you may roam,
Remember now that I am home.
Quite different to the one I left;
It’s sad to see you’re still bereft.
So here I stay where there is peace.
No hurt, no pain, just sweet release.
I was the product of your love
A child sent down from up above,
To walk a brief time there with you;
A life of hope and meaning too.
I know you wanted me to stay
And even though you knelt to pray,
The angels came and lifted me
High up above the clouds to see
Another time, another space
Where love surrounds this holy place.
Remember me but do not grieve,
I’m happy now, you must believe.
So keep the faith although it’s hard
For you to go that extra yard.
I am at peace, I’ll say again
There is just sunshine here, no rain.
So live your lives so full and free
And maybe sometimes cry for me;
You’re only human proud and tall,
Whilst I’m an angel after all.
GOD BLESS LOLA X X X
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